Have you ever came across a woman who has a refined sense of style and come to the conclusion that she has her life together? Contrary to popular belief, uncovering your personal style isn’t so much about being stylish but knowing who you are.
Over my short years as a fashion blogger -and even during university- I have had continuous questions about how I have such a strong affirmation when it comes to my style. Moreover, how it’s stayed to be so consistent over the past few years. Of course, as time passes, your wardrobe preferences will naturally evolve alongside you as you mature. However, because I’ve dedicated a lot of time on discovering myself and building a path I can follow, to becoming the person I desire to be. I’m quite certain that as a young woman- barely into her adult years- I have successfully reached a strong sense of self, achieving a refined sense of style that will take me through the rest of my life because I absolutely love it and there is room for it to grow gracefully. Sounds intense? Well, actually reaching this euphoric cloud is easier than you would think.
To many this seems impossible and overwhelming. When I ask someone to describe their personal style and if they love it, I’m usually given an answer similar to: ‘I don’t have one and I don’t know what I actually
love to wear’ or ‘I wear lots of different trends, I can’t be put into one style’. See this here is the problem. You’re viewing personal style all wrong. Style doesn’t equate to a labelled box that will stunt your creativity by giving it a definition. Having a personal style will liberate you by focusing on being timeless, not trendy. Moreover, you already know what styles you love, you just don’t know how to put it in to words. Perhaps you’ve confused yourself by following trends (this can happen subconsciously) and filled your wardrobe with so many different things, many of which you don’t love or wear. Nonetheless, it’s entirely possible to gain insight on what your personal style should be. In addition, as my mission is to help you curate an empowering closet made for a conquer, that will give you confidence and knowledge on why becoming a conscious consumer is in your best interest. The first and most important step is having an ultimate affirmation on what your personal style is.
To help you on your quest, I’ve put together a free workbook which will hopefully help you gain clarity on how to find the fashion you love and develop your personal style, once and for all! I recommend reading through my information and advice, before downloading and filling out the worksheet.
Don’t let your style become your ruler
It’s so important to walk away from trends as this is when fashion owns you. You are letting the industry make the choices and you loose your authenticity in the midst of it all.
Decide who you want to be and what you want to express. Allow your style to become an extension of you but never the ruling part of you.
Become an expert observer
The most important step to curating a style that you will love is to become an expert at observing other peoples styles. This is because it can be quite difficult to turn on your “style brain”, if you haven’t used it before. Therefore, paying attention to those around you are wearing as well as whom you are exposed to via the tv, blogs and the internet. If you can see yourself wearing the outfit, then you’re on to something. The workbook will help you in this step, so if you’re having difficulties on where to even start, then don’t worry. However, having an idea- no matter how small- on fashion styles you have noticed and if you like or dislike them, is going to really help you.
Be open minded
Despite stating the above, I wouldn’t rule everything you dislike off completely. If you feel very strongly that you won’t like wearing something, then by all means cross it off and pray you never see it again. If, however, you feel it isn’t going to suit you, I highly suggest that you give it a try of it anyways. I had always assumed that jumpsuits wouldn’t suit me because I’m short and I also had this correlation to onesies. Consequently, I couldn’t get pyjamas out of my head. Then, I was peeping onto Pinterest and I saw a model wearing it so elegantly and it changed my perception. I figured that I’d never know for sure and thus, I ordered a few different jumpsuits to try on. Much to my surprise, I loved them! I discovered that they were actually great for a petite poppy like myself as they are very elongating and super comfortable. This is why it is so important to keep open minded.
What you think may not suit you, actually might turn into your new love!
Finding your style takes time so don’t expect miracles over night. It’s a long trial and error purpose and it is likely you’re going to make some mistakes along the way.
Wealth isn’t a requirement
Having money doesn’t equate to having a style you adore. Just because you love that amazing outfit Rihanna wore that costs thousands to recreate doesn’t mean that’s the end of the road for you. You can easily get any look successfully, on a budget. It’s just going to take a bit of effort to find similar pieces.
Your style is for you not anyone else
It means nothing if you’re creating a style as a way to fit into a certain crown or attaining perfection. Why would you want to be a carbon copy of someone else and deny the world of all your magic? There’s a difference between creative inspiration and imitation. When you are in the experimentation stage, it’s totally fine to recreate outfits someone has worn, whilst you’re in the changing room, figuring out which pieces of clothing help you feel your best self. However, you must ensure you don’t loose your authenticity on your style journey. Keep asking yourself ‘is this me?’ Not with someone else in mind, but wholeheartedly, completely you.
“Fashion is what you’re offered four times a year by designers. And style is what you choose.” – Lauren Hutton
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